Deal Me In, Lunar Extra ~ “Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been?”


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“Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been?” by Joyce Carol Oates

Card picked: A Five

From: Online at Celestial Timepiece via Paula Cappa’s blog

Thoughts: So, I was on a dusty soccer field last night at about a quarter to eight, one of six other ultimate disc players standing on the line and waiting for the pull, when one of my teammates pointed out the large, orange moon on the horizon, and I thought to myself, “I was supposed to read a Deal Me In story today…” Since I drew my cards on Saturday, I knew it was a good one too! How could I have forgotten? Well, it was due to an all-consuming bout of web design…

This morning, contrite, I read “Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been?”, a rather acclaimed story by Joyce Carol Oates. I remember a fellow Deal Me In reader reviewing this story earlier in the year and some discussion of ambiguity–and there is certainly some that going on.

I’m inclined, against my better judgement about such things, to give it a feminist reading. Connie is a pretty 15 year-old girl. Like most teenagers, she sort of hates her family, especially her goody-two-shoes older sister. She goes to the mall with her friends and occasionally goes to the burger joint across from the mall. She flirts with boys and has definitely discovered that they are interested in her. She likes rock music. And, honestly, it all seems pretty innocent. Which is why, when a bad-boy type shows up at her door while she’s home alone, I’m ready to say, “Ah, this is about a girl being punished for not realizing what she’s doing as she asserts her sexuality.” But Oates, in JCO fashion, veers left of even how frightening even *that* situation might be for Connie. Arnold Friend, the creepy bad-boy, has perfect knowledge of Connie’s situation, a sort of malleable face, and isn’t quite right. Is he meant to stand for everything bad that can happen to a young girl? The trick that Oates pulls off in this story (with a shout out to Short Story Magic Tricks) is that this escalation doesn’t take anything away from the unease of watching things play out between Connie and Arnold, but we’re also not in a straight-up home invasion horror movie either.

Previously: I like Joyce Carol Oates more every time I read something by her, and it’s an appreciation that I think has come with age. I’ll have to read one of her novels one of these days.

5 thoughts on “Deal Me In, Lunar Extra ~ “Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been?”

  1. Dale

    Now I can’t wait for this story to pop up on my DMI list! And, yes, I think I will need to read one of her novels, also. I’ve always wondered about “We Were the Mulvaneys”.

    1. Katherine Nabity Post author

      Being one of her less dark works, I’m not sure “Mulvaneys” is for me. But it might be. I’m not sure trust JCO to stay on the sun-lit path. 😉

  2. Jay

    The only novel of hers I’ve read was The Tattooed Girl (which I liked). I’ve read a couple dozen of her short stories by now too and my appreciation for her also grows the more I read.

    I love how you mention seeing the full moon is a reminder. When I “invented” the full moon option for DMI I thought I was only being tongue in cheek when I said that seeing the full moon in the sky would be a great reminder, but I’m finding out it seriously is. Driving to work yesterday I saw it and thought “time to pick another Bradbury story!” and the two women in my office who are doing the off-line lunar DMI are “always” talking about whenthe full moon is eminent, etc. (and it’s not like the moon will ever fail to become full “on schedule” – quite a reliable reminder mechanism!)


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